I ask that you take a look at this past year and without judgement towards yourself and with kindness, observe the situations you were in and contemplate on how you would do things differently if you had the chance to do it all over again.
This isn’t about blame or feeling guilty or regret or beating yourself up, no. This is about seeing how you want to go about doing things differently from now on.
It’s the start of a brand new year. Clean slate. This is the perfect opportunity to set your intention on what type of person you want to be or more to the point, the person you are under all the conditioning, trauma and belief systems.
The end of a year can mark the end of behaviours, thoughts and patterns that no longer serve us and the birth of embracing the real you underneath all the walls and protective mechanisms that have served you initially but may be now hindering your progress.
How do you want to do things differently? Would you like to feel more grounded? Or maybe you want to respond instead of reacting to potentially triggering situations. Maybe you want to be kinder to yourself as well as to others or you would prefer to make decisions from your heart rather than your head. Whatever it is, the power to take life by the balls and make it what you want, is in your hands.
You have so much more power than you give yourself credit for. You choose what happens from now on.
You also have the answers to all of your questions inside of you – the only thing standing in your way of not accessing all that power and guidance is your inability to be still, to find the quiet within yourself.
This can seem like the hardest thing in the world to achieve BUT it is achievable.
Keep choosing you. Always. No matter what you've done or how badly you think you've "failed" at doing or not doing something. Just keep practicing loving yourself.
I can’t even begin to explain what a game changer this is.
Set your intention strong in your mind and make sure you speak it in the present tense. To add fire to it, feel the feelings that being this upgraded version of yourself would feel like, to bring it into the 'now'.
Now that you've done all that, keep coming back to that feeling, that visual of you kicking arse at life. If it feels foreign, it's because it is (like me, you may have been the person who constantly put themselves down or hated on themselves) but just like learning a new language or getting the knack of a new sport, it takes practice.
The more you practice, the more you'll start to see small changes taking place in your life and all those small changes over time add up to big shifts in you. Just keep going, keep choosing you and loving you...because despite all the shit that you have told yourself up until this point, you're so worth it.
Oh and you're not only helping yourself when you do this kind of work. You're actually increasing the light in you and therefore everyone around you, which then has a knock on effect to the people around them and so on and so forth. It's huge!
So if you're finding it hard to do it for yourself initially, maybe you can do it for those you love. Eventually you'll do it for yourself because that is the nature of the work but whatever gets you started, right?